THE FREUDIAN COMPLEX –
Pudendal inferiorities governing Human Behaviour
Intro : The Freudian Complex is an inferiority complex to the same sex arising in infancy in
every human’s unconscious mind ,which governs almost every attitude, action
and thought from birth to death. It is the root cause of most misery in the human mind. It was a psychoanalytical hypothesis
put forth by Sigmund Freud,the great neuro psychiatrist of the last century who coined the theory of unconscious mind dictating
behavior.
A)
SEEDS-- The Birth of the Complex
The son sees his mother’s closeness to the father. He develops a
guilt about his carnal desires for his mother. He worries that the father might chop off
his penis (and he may resemble his sister) as a punishment. He develops an inferiority to his father who is bigger, stronger and who has a greater influence on his mother. Since then anyone bigger, stronger, better
or more successful etc is identified with the father and the inferiority carried.
Similarly the daughter is worried that the mother has already chopped off her imagined penis, as punishment for her
attraction to her father. Her mother has bigger breasts on which she suckles and hence her father is attached to her.
As fantasies of intimacy with the opposite gender grow, the inferiority
to the parent of the same gender intensifies.At school the male child sees other boys with bigger builts, better grades and
abilities, better energy at sports .He starts feeling inferior. Also at school the word
“better’’ is learnt; and a confusion between “not better”
and “worse” is created.
The female child sees other girls with better bodies, better grades and better qualities and the inferiority grows.
B)
THE STEM –Growth of the Complex
During Adolescence and teens, the development of bodies; sexual status,
& personalities occur .Obviously development
of different individuals is at a different pace.This compounds the inferiority.
Why is that boy taller than me, why has he
such a handsome face, why is he better built? Why is that girl beautiful, why does she have a fuller bust, why does
she have such a good pair of legs, why is she so fair?
Why does she attract so much? Why are the boys gaga over her? WHY NOT ME? And the inferiority complex creates delusions.
She is convinced that none of the boys like her since she is not “not better” but she is “worse”.
Even though there may be so many boys attracted to her.
Attraction
of one sex to another is genetically determined by the DNA. It is
almost
universal, unless previous conditioning interferes. Hence most boys are
attracted
to most girls and vice-versa. Of course there will be good, better and the
best
choices, but certainly not bad, worse and better. The “ bad” is because of previous conditionings by the parents,
friends, teachers, media, religion, environment and past observations.
Also
smartness is envied. The ability of being good at elocution, games, communication, leadership and management is envied. The
smart envy the beautiful, and the beautiful envy the smart. The smart girls think
that the boys are perpetually attracted to the busty beauties and the beauties think that
the boys like to flirt only with the smart girls. The result, all develop massive inferiority complexes and bitterness
is born.
C) THE
FLOWERS- Youth and Adult Manifestations of Freudian Complex
The young man realizes that money is power , that money confers status. The ladies want status
and financial stability in the man. The athletic ability at sex is no criteria for attracting the ladies, but the job status,
the pocket status are more important.
The young woman realizes that elegant clothes cut well to show the good parts, revealing dressing,
padded bras, high heels and a sexy seductive attitude overshadows a naturally well asseted girl with a big bust or good bodyline
wrapped in hide all clothes.
Since money is the all powerful omnipotent weapon, men commit their lives to it and develop an
inferiority towards other richer men ,and women commit their lives to finding a well settled, financially stable man and their
inferiority is to women with financially well off husbands.
The result is a highly complexed adult who is dissatisfied with himself and is bitter about his
sexual status and envious of every other man with more money, status and sex appeal.
The woman also ends up discontent and frustrated and jealous of every other woman who is more
beautiful, sexy or married to a man of greater status or financial standing.
Anyway, the Freudian inferiority provides drive
for ambition,success &achievement.
D) THE FRUIT- Marriage-The first Psychodefence for Freudian
Complex
The only goal of the DNA is to replicate and reproduce. The human being like any other animal
is polygamous. The sexual desire is non specific and universal with everybody getting attracted to almost everybody unless
biased by previous conditioning by past etc.
In marriage, the spouse seeks a temporary defense against the freudian insecurity.The man wants
his wife to convince him that he is the only man she is attracted to, that he is at least her superman , that she will be
sexually satisfied only by him and that he is God’s boon, destiny’s greatest miracle for her.
The wife too wants her husband to convince her that she is the ultimate sex Goddess and that he wants only her and that she is the center of his existence and that no other woman is capable
of evoking sexual desires in him.
This is the unspoken agreement , the ultimate psycho
defense for the freudian inferiority that at least my spouse does not find me inferior and that she or he finds all others
in the world below average and somehow terribly unattractive.
E)SEEDS-
Kids: The Ultimate Psychodefense
Now as the marriage progresses , the husband finds out that the wife is attracted towards many
other men and vice-versa. Now there is a conflict and the inferiority comes back
with a bigger bang.
Now the woman wants to convince herself that though the husband is attracted physically to other
women, he will inseminate only her and form the fruit, the union of their two
souls.The man too wants his wife to bear his seed ,as this will confer on him,superiority over others whom his wife is attracted
to.
But soon after the birth of the child, the inferiority resurfaces since it had never disappeared in the first place. Now cold anger and hostility is generated in both the spouses,
they actually hate each other and blame each other for regeneration of their inferiorities to the same sex.
The wife desires a smaller model of her husband as her child and the husband desires a smaller
model of his wife.They believe that the smaller models can be easily dominated
and made to believe that they are the ultimate and superior humans of the opposite sex. The vibrations of the mother are such
that the male child gets hostile to the father and the next generation of Freudian inferiority is born. And vice-versa .
E) The Destruction of Freudian Complex :
Our
society is plagued by the Freudian Complex. The people in the society want it both ways. They want themselves to be polygamous
and their spouses to be monogamous. Firstly we must realize that we have an inferiority complex imbibed in us, that this is
making us bitter , frustrated and dissatisfied in life. We must realize that everyone including ourselves is attractive to
the opposite sex and that good, better and best will always exist. That man and
woman are polygamous and that sexual attraction does not confer superiority or
inferiority. That sexual attraction is non-specific and universal , and that this always was, is and will be as long as we
are made by the genetic code the goal of which is replication
